Woman Says Her Ex is Asking Her to Give Back a Gift He Gave Her — But She Feels Like She ‘Deserves’ to Keep It

A 25-year-old woman is determined to keep an expensive gift that she was given by her on-and-off boyfriend.

In a post on Reddit’s AITAH forum, the woman explained that she and her former partner, 28, were in a “vicious cycle” of breaking up and getting back together for two years. She said he would often shower her with gifts and flowers while persisting that they rekindle their relationship. 

Despite having blocked his phone number since their latest breakup, he has been finding ways to contact her to ask her to return an “expensive gold necklace” that he gifted her.

“The thing is, the whole relationship was just disappointment and financial drain for me,” the woman said. “I feel like I deserve to keep it because he gave it to me to try to make up for everything.”

The woman didn’t reveal the exact details of what caused her to lose feelings for her ex-boyfriend, but said it took a toll on her emotionally.

“He can never make up for all the pain he caused me, but at least this is something good for me to get out of this,” she said. “I think I deserve to keep the necklace.”

Curious to hear other people’s opinions, she asked, “What do you think?”

Every response to the post attempted to reassure the woman that gifts shouldn’t be returned, regardless of being asked to give them back.

“NTA [not the a——]  it was a gift, so obviously it’s yours,” one person wrote. “However, you might want to consider if it’s worth keeping it and him bothering you or you give it back and he leaves you alone.”

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“A gift is a gift! Keep it! No other justification required,” another chimed in.

“Post it on FB marketplace and tell him he can buy it from you if he wants it back so badly,” a third commented. “The necklace is yours. He’s a douche. Block him on everything.”

Another person advised the woman to keep a record of all her ex-boyfriend’s attempts to contact her amid the dispute over the necklace.

“NTA. That necklace is yours! It was a gift, not a bribe,” they said. “Get video evidence of him showing up at your house. If he starts sending letters, keep them. Gather as much evidence as you can get and see if you can get a restraining order, because what he’s doing is absolutely harassment.”