Woman Excludes Sister from Family Gift Plans After She Went ‘Above and Beyond’ Behind Her Siblings’ Backs for Present

A woman excluded her sister from family gift planning after she “secretly” bought an extravagant present on her own for their father’s birthday.

In an ‘Am I the A——?’ post on Reddit, the woman explained that it all started after her sister bought their dad an iPhone without telling the rest of the siblings, leaving them feeling inadequate with their presents. 

“We never really celebrated birthdays growing up and so it was sort of an unspoken rule to keep the gifts, if any, simple,” the woman wrote. “Every year me and my two sisters would generally come together to agree on gifts that we then hand over whilst sharing the cost.”

“At my father’s birthday, my sister decided to buy him an extra gift on the side without telling us, a new iPhone,” she explained. “My father is actually fairly wealthy and was not looking to buy a new iPhone, so it was a bit of a strange gift. It was even stranger that it was a ‘secret gift’ up until the last minute.”

The woman said she was “upset” by her sister’s secret gift, after “handing over a much simpler gift.”

“It made me and [my other sister] look like s—,” she wrote, adding, “I think what irritates me the most is that even if [my sister] pressed ahead with the gift, she could have given us enough time in advance so we could’ve each decided on a better gift.”

The woman said that her sister had given out secret presents before but on “a much smaller scale,” adding, “The iPhone really ruined everyone else’s gifts.”

With their mother’s birthday coming up, the woman said that she and her other sister decided not to tell their sister about their plans; however, her sister “caught on and is upset.”

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“She thinks we are being excessively mean because we are planning her exclusion,” she wrote, asking, “AITA [Am I the A——] for not involving our sister in our gift plans any longer?”

One person defended the user, writing back, “Whatever her reason for giving the more expensive gift to your father on her own, she surely understood that she was breaking with ‘tradition’ and didn’t care if YOU two were upset, so why worry about her feelings now?”

Another disagreed, commenting, “You’ve turned gift-giving into a petty, silly competition and forgotten that gifts are about the recipient. Frankly, were I your mother, I would be disappointed and hurt that my birthday present is less about me and more about point scoring.”