Dad Frustrated When Daughter Spills the Beans About the Tooth Fairy to Her Kindergarten Class. Now He’s Worried About Santa Claus

A dad doesn’t know how to make sure his daughter doesn’t spill the beans about Santa Claus.

The original poster (OP) shared his story on Reddit and explained that his daughter has always been very literal and logical. He said that since they’re Jewish, they have no reason to do Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny, but they have been doing the Tooth Fairy.

OP said that the other day, his daughter asked him if the Tooth Fairy was real. He said his daughter asked him if it was “like Santa where grown ups play a game with their kids.” OP explained that the Tooth Fairy wasn’t real and that it’s just the parents leaving money under kids’ pillows.

However, OP told his daughter they could still do the Tooth Fairy when she loses her teeth. He also told his daughter, “It’s okay if your friends believe in the Tooth Fairy, it’s like Santa.”

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A few days later, OP received a message from his daughter’s teacher, who told him that his daughter had told the entire class that the Tooth Fairy isn’t real.

“So we’re going to have to have a whole conversation about Santa later,” said OP, going on to ask for tips on how to make sure his daughter knows she cannot spoil Christmas for her class.

In her comments, one person said they were using Judaism as a way to explain it to their kids.

“I’m Jewish too. We talk to our kids a lot about lashon hara [negative speech about someone] and the mitzvah against embarrassing others,” the person wrote. “Ruining Santa, and making other kids feel bad for believing in the magic falls into that category, at least in my house.”

Another person said that OP should tell his daughter that Santa is a game, and if she tells the rest of the class, then she’s ruining the fun.

“My family celebrates Christmas. I tell my kids that Santa is a game we play because it’s fun to pretend about,” they wrote. “Part of the game is that with everyone outside your family, you have to talk/act like he’s real. Anyone who admits he’s not loses the game.”

“You could use some version of this to tell your daughter she will ruin the game for everyone if she says anything about Santa not being real,” they went on. “Ruining a game is something a Kindergartener can understand, and it may release her internal pressure to CONVINCE everyone who just won’t accept that this story is so SILLY!”

OP added an edit to his post after getting many responses. He said he sat down with his daughter and talked about Santa and the Tooth Fairy after getting some great suggestions.

“I reminded her that Santa is a game that kids play with their parents and that part of the fun of it being a game is that they pretend he’s real,” OP said. “I told her that saying he’s not real might embarrass them or hurt their feelings.”

“She was really upset at the idea of hurting her friends’ feelings but wasn’t sure what she was supposed to say if someone asked her if she believed in Santa,” OP continued. “I told her she could just tell them, ‘My family doesn’t do Santa, but I still get presents at Hanukkah!’ She seemed okay with that.”