Busy Mom of 3 Says She Doesn’t Want to Attend Her Husband’s Constant Social Events: ‘It Puts a Lot of Stress on Me’

A mother is annoyed at her husband for constantly attending social events while she’s stuck at home looking after their three children.

In an “Am I the A——?” post on Reddit, the busy mom complained that her husband is always away coaching kids’ football, while she is having to juggle working and raising their children by herself.

“My husband coaches kids’ football. He’s done this for a few years now and it was never an issue until we had children,” she wrote, explaining that she has two children under the age of 2, with one being a newborn.

“He coached full time (practice 5 days a week) last season when our oldest was still a baby and I expressed how difficult this was for me,” the stressed mom continued. 

She said she is left putting the kids to bed “every night,” along with making dinner, cleaning up the house and doing “the whole bedtime routine … on top of working 4 days a week,” while her husband just gets to concentrate on work.

After getting pregnant with their second child, the woman told her husband that she didn’t want him to coach as “it puts a lot of stress on me,” but he didn’t listen for long.

“Fast forward to May, our second was born and, lo and behold, he wants to coach again,” she wrote. “I told him over and over i didn’t want him to, but he went back ‘part time’ … and apparently events.”

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The woman said her husband recently asked her to go to a a pool party he was attending after a game in complete ignorance of her stressful situation at home — so she declined.

“I don’t go to any games or any events because I don’t want to drag our kids out,” the mom explained. She also said that during the week, she’s busy taking her kids to doctors’ appointments, as one child was born with a heart defect and the other has speech therapy.

The woman said her husband’s social engagements “consume half of his time,” leaving her feeling like a “solo parent.”

“[My husband’s] at the party, texting me saying, ‘I need to get out of my comfort zone, he wishes I supported him’ … part of me feels bad,” she wrote.

Another Reddit user responded, “There’s nothing wrong with his activities if it’s something passionate about. The problem arises when he puts the importance of those activities ahead of things in his life that have more significance and importance.”

Someone else said there needs to be compromise between the couple, writing, “You can figure out what you are willing to do and how often with the understanding things can change because of your kids.”