Bride Books Wedding on Brother’s Anniversary. He Plans to Mention Her ‘Strange’ Choice in His Speech

A newly married man isn’t going to let his sister’s controversial wedding date decision slide.

In a recent post on Reddit’s “Wedding Shaming” forum, the brother of a bride-to-be shared that his sister set her wedding date on his first wedding anniversary, just “a few days” after he tied the knot.

“I think it’s strange,” he wrote, noting, “It is very much a choice she would make though.”

While the man doesn’t feel “offended” that he now has to share his anniversary date with his sister, he speculates that she made her decision on purpose. The engaged couple and their young daughter just attended the man’s intimate wedding, so he knows the date hasn’t slipped their minds yet.

“She calls [me] and said she was inspired by our wedding and decided to finally book theirs… for the exact same day one year later,” the man explained. “Supposedly because it was the only time the venue was available.”

The man anticipates that his sister will ask him to speak at her wedding. So, he plans to take the opportunity to remind all the guests who had the date first.

“I can’t wait to bring this up (lightheartedly) in my remarks,” he said.

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Redditors had mixed opinions on whether or not “someone else’s anniversary is off limits,” but most people noted the choice was “weird.” Many commenters advised the bride’s brother to not bring up the date in his wedding toast, regardless of if the couple should have picked a different date.

“Def don’t bring it up,” one of the top comments reads. “It will reflect poorly on you instead of her. Yes, a tad annoying if it’s in a larger context of similar behavior, but on the large scale of things it’s just a day. And this way you’ll always remember each other’s anniversaries.”

A few people suggested that the man still celebrate his first wedding anniversary with a post on social media, then the siblings’ shared friends and family can make their own judgements.

An individual said, “I’d make a public Facebook post on the day celebrating your anniversary and partner. It’s not a dig at your sister, but some guests will go, ‘Wow, she got married on her [brother’s] anniversary, wonder what’s behind that?’ ”