Man Spits in Girlfriend’s Food After She Gets Up to Grab Napkins, Then Claims It Was Just a ‘Joke’

A woman wonders if she is wrong for being “grossed out” after her boyfriend spat in her food as a “joke.”

On Reddit, the 25-year-old woman explained that she and her 27-year-old boyfriend were recently eating takeout when she “got up to grab napkins.” When she came back, “he smirked and said, ‘Don’t get mad.’ ”

He then admitted that he spat in her food while she was gone, but played it off as an innocent prank.

“He said it was a joke and he wanted to see if I’d notice. I immediately lost my appetite and threw the food away,” the woman shares.

However, he “got annoyed” and told her she was being “too sensitive,” arguing that it “was harmless because we kiss and ‘swap spit’ anyway.”

She told him it was “completely different” and that she felt “disrespected,” but he didn’t back down.

“He says I’m overreacting and should ‘lighten up.’ I honestly feel grossed out and violated by it,” she ends, asking other Redditors to weigh in.

People in the comments were quick to point out that this was a sign of disrespect and that if she lets him get away with it, he will either do it again or try something worse. 

“Honestly, I’m really concerned for you that you need to ask Reddit if this is ok. This is obviously not ok,” one person wrote. “Do you want to be treated nicely in your relationships? Then leave. He doesn’t get it. You can’t explain something to someone that doesn’t respect you or your feelings.”

“Do you want to continue to be treated like this? Then stay. He ain’t changing. He must be gaslighting you on a regular basis for you to even question things,” they continued. “Dump him. Block him. He does not like you.”

“For 27? That’s frat boy immaturity levels. I would definitely take him blaming you for not going along with it as a major red flag,” another person commented. 

“This was a test to see what you’ll tolerate. Absolutely do not tolerate this,” a third person added. “Dump him and be explicitly clear about why you’re dumping him, and he might change for his next girlfriend. If you stay, he’ll do this again.”