Bride Is Furious After Her Maid of Honor’s Brother Chose to Have His Wedding on the Same Night as Her Rehearsal Dinner

A bride is struggling not to be “bitter” because her maid of honor’s brother has complicated her wedding rehearsal plans.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, the bride-to-be asked users on the platform for their advice on how to navigate an unforeseen wedding conflict. Her maid of honor is now forced to choose between attending her rehearsal celebration or her brother’s wedding because both events are scheduled to take place at the same time.

“I don’t know what to do or think so that there isn’t drama,” the bride wrote.

The maid of honor’s brother coincidentally scheduled his ceremony to take place one day before the Redditor’s wedding, which is the day of her rehearsal. He also booked the same wedding venue.

Luckily, the timing of the man’s ceremony won’t interfere with the poster’s rehearsal, just her celebration after the practice run. However, the bride and the maid of honor’s brother “share a guest list,” so she fears that if her maid of honor doesn’t stay for her after-party then her other bridesmaids and mutual guests might follow suit by backing out too.

Only four members of the bride’s family are attending her wedding, so having her friends at her rehearsal celebration is especially important to her so that she feels supported.

“The people on my guest list have done a lot for me but they also know the other couple more than us,” the bride said. “If I do let my maid of honor go so that she’s less stressed out, the other bridesmaids I have will also probably not want to be in the bridal party.”

She added, “I’m just upset because our save-the-dates went out first.”

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In the comments section, Redditors argued that the maid of honor should pick her brother’s wedding over her friend’s rehearsal afterparty to prioritize family. Most commenters also said they were confused why the maid of honor’s personal decision would impact the bride’s other guests’ choices, suggesting that the advice-seeker is “overthinking” the situation.

“Wait why are all your bridesmaids not attending if the MOH (maid of honor) doesn’t attend?” one person asked.

Someone else similarly wrote, “Why is your guest list so entwined with your MOH’s guest list? I’m very confused. And why would you want people in your bridal party if they wouldn’t want to be in it without your MOH?”

In response to these questions, the bride commented, “The bridal party won’t show up for me if MOH (maid of honor) is not in the bridal party.” To this, some Redditors said that the bridesmaids don’t sound like true friends if they’d be willing to skip the wedding festivities just because the maid of honor would be missing one event.