Woman Was Asked to Host Friend’s Bridal Shower at Her House, but Not Invited to the Wedding: ‘This Is Odd’

A woman says she was asked to plan and host a friend’s bridal shower at her house — but yet, she apparently didn’t make the guest list for the wedding.

She shared her story in a post on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, beginning by explaining that her friend “eloped out of the country” but is planning a New Year’s Eve wedding reception with all her friends and family.

The OP (original poster) said she was invited to a “small girls night/bachelorette” for the bride a few months ago, and she attended and brought a gift.

Then, the maid of honor asked the OP to help plan their friend’s bridal shower and hold it at her house because she has “the space.”

However, it recently “dawned on” the OP that the New Year’s Eve wedding is just weeks away and she has yet to receive an invitation.

“This is odd,” she wrote, asking, “Should I say something?”

She concluded her post by saying she now intends to say “no” to hosting the bridal shower since she seemingly hasn’t been invited to the wedding celebration.

In the comments section, readers agreed that the situation is “weird.” Still, many advised her not to make any firm decisions about hosting the shower until she politely inquires about the guest list for the wedding.

“Normally it is a little rude to ask if you are invited to something, but in this case I think it’s absolutely justified to inquire,” one person wrote. “I agree it is pretty late not to have received an invitation, so it seems likely either it is lost in the mail, went to the wrong email address, or you are not invited. In the latter case, obviously it’s ridiculous to be asked to host a shower. Or even attend a shower for that matter.”

Another agreed, saying, “It may be worth double-checking with MOH/bride on your invite status.”

They added: “No matter what, hosting is a big commitment, and you need to decide if you want to take that on. And if you’re not invited, I would recommend not hosting.”

Others urged the OP to just say “no” now or she is likely to end up getting “the short end of the stick.”

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“A simple ‘no’ is also a complete sentence,” a Redditor said. “It’s cringey that they are comfortable enough to ask you for such an intrusive favor. You seem sweet, OP, your instincts are right to find this odd.”

“You may have the space, but apparently they couldn’t find the same space for you on the invite list,” they added.