Woman Walks Out on First Date After He Says She’s ‘Bigger Than He Prefers’. Now She Wonders If She’s ‘Too Sensitive’

A woman turned to the Reddit community for advice following an uncomfortable first date that left her questioning whether she had overreacted. In her post, she described a series of comments from her date that made her feel disrespected and misunderstood.

She shared that she had met a man online, and the two decided to meet in person for dinner. “While we are waiting for the food, he said I’m ‘bigger than what he usually prefers,’ ” she wrote, adding that the remark instantly changed the tone of the evening.

At that moment, she recalled thinking, “if I’m not your preference, why did you entertain a date with me?” Her date quickly tried to backtrack, saying, “I didn’t mean anything by it, I think you’re pretty,” but the damage had already been done.

Despite the awkward start, the woman attempted to continue the conversation, though she admitted “the vibes were already off.” When her date asked about her interests, she said she shared her love for art, explaining that drawing and painting were her passions and that she hoped to one day “exhibit work in prestigious galleries.”

Instead of showing support, he dismissed her ambitions. “Don’t you think it’s wiser to focus on a more practical line of work?” he asked, suggesting that “most people in it don’t go far. At least not until after they die.” The woman pushed back, replying, “society devaluing artists is why the world is quite literally losing color and everything is grey and beige.”

As the night went on, the conversation shifted to the topic of family and future goals. The woman said she told him that she “didn’t mind getting married if I find a decent person but I don’t want kids,” a response that seemed to strike another nerve.

“He said, ‘why wouldn’t you want kids? I think it’s a red flag when a woman doesn’t like kids,’ ” she wrote, adding that this was the final straw. Realizing their incompatibility, she told him directly, “you know what, we’re not compatible,” before asking for the check, requesting a to-go plate, paying for her meal and leaving.

Later that evening, she received a text from her date that only made her feel worse. “I’m sorry if I offended you. Was it the weight comment? I didn’t think you’d be so sensitive,” he wrote. She said she decided to block him, though she admitted, “a little voice in my head is making me wonder if I am in fact being too sensitive.”

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Reddit commenters quickly rallied behind her, assuring her she made the right call. One person summed up the sentiment by saying, “NTA. Three strikes and now he’s out. The weight comment. Devaluing artists. Kid incompatibility. Bye Felicia!”

In a follow-up comment, the woman clarified that her decision not to have children didn’t mean she disliked them. “Mind you I never said I didn’t like kids,” she wrote. “I love children and would never go out of my way to mistreat one. I just don’t want one because I know my limits.”