Bonnie Blue has dominated headlines since she launched into the public eye with a figurative – and literal – bang early last year.
From encouraging husbands to cheat on their wives and asking ‘barely legal’ males to have sex with her on camera, to filming herself participating in a 1,000-man gangbang, the sex worker, 26, has generated no shortage of controversies.
But former sex addict Belinda ‘Love’ Rygier has revealed to Daily Mail there is a darker meaning behind Bonnie’s attention-grabbing sexcapades – and she knows because she’s lived it.
‘As I’ve had a sex addiction, when I had the addiction, I didn’t know that I had it. I was sleeping with men and women… [because] I was seeking validation,’ she says.
‘I didn’t love myself and I thought sex meant that I was worthy of love.
‘I’m seeing the same patterns in [Bonnie] because, whilst it’s marketing and if she is or isn’t doing it, it’s still all about seeking validation and being famous and getting approval, which is linked to self-worth.’
Bonnie Blue’s, 26, controversial sexcapades have dominated headlines since she launched into the public eye with a figurative – and literal – bang early last year
‘[Bonnie] is now going down this [path] because I know that you can get really addicted to this form of work because of the validation that you’re receiving, and the worth,’ Belinda, 43, says.
But the former Bachelor star, who appeared on the show in 2017 and battled her own personal sex addiction for 15 years, also admits the fault doesn’t completely fall on Bonnie.
Belinda points to Bonnie’s 1,000-man gangbang as an example – the shocking moment in which the sex worker slept with 1,057 men in one day, breaking a record which was previously held by Lisa Sparks, who slept with 919 men in a day in 2004.
Bonnie, who is from Derbyshire and whose real name is Tia Billinger, ended up in hot water following the sex marathon when she admitted she mistakenly allowed the first man of the 1,000 to penetrate her without protection.
‘Number one out of 1057 went in raw,’ Bonnie told documentary maker Lee Spooner. ‘But I think like when you’re in the moment, from the guy’s perspective and they’re getting excited, they just sort of forget—which is like completely normal.’
Sexual health provider, Condoms UK, called out the adult content creator for putting herself and all the men who had sex with her on that day at risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or disease.
‘What she’s doing, there’s two sides of the coin, we’re putting all of the blame on her for the STD stuff, but people are also responsible for their own actions and choices,’ Belinda says.
‘It’s like saying, “You’re on a diet, do you want to eat this cake? Or not eat this cake?” Just because the cake is there, you still have a choice to have it or not have it.
But former sex addict Belinda ‘Love’ Rygier has revealed to Daily Mail there is a darker meaning behind Bonnie’s attention-grabbing sexcapades – and she knows because she’s lived it
‘Those people need to be responsible for their own actions as well, not put it all on Bonnie Blue. But also, she’s creating opportunities for people to be reckless.’
Belinda continues: ‘Deep down, I don’t like what she’s doing… I’m not judging her, I’m worried for her. I’m actually genuinely worried for her choices because when I was addicted to sex, there would be the high of the intimacy, then the low.
‘It is like having drugs. You get high, you come down… What she’s doing is, she’s a great marketing person, she is her own business, but long term, I think she will suffer.’
Belinda says she didn’t get help for her sex addiction until after she suffered through a difficult relationship, which encouraged her to unpack her emotions, along with her perceptions of love and sex.
‘[Bonnie] needs to have something happen to her that makes her go, “S***, this isn’t working for me.” And that may never happen. She has to want to heal whatever it is,’ she adds.
Belinda, who now works as a self-love coach and will be appearing at the Brisbane Sxhibition next month, goes on to say she would never ‘judge’ Bonnie for her actions, but hopes she can one day realise ‘she is truly worthy of love’.