Wife Feels Husband Prioritizes Everything but Her, Says ‘We Got the Rest of Our Lives Together, What’s the Rush?’

A wife is upset because she feels her husband prioritizes everything — but her.

In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman detailed that she and her husband have been together for five years and married for three, and they share a 2-year-old daughter.

Explaining that “he’s very laid back and chilled, and I’m more neurotic, I think,” the wife continued, “We obviously spend a lot of time together, and we’ve never spent a night apart (we joke that we would find this very hard).”

Still, she added, “We both work [during] the week, and he has hobbies nearly every day after work. He usually comes home about 9, we eat and go to bed.”

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When they are both off on weekends, the woman said she and her husband will do stuff with their young daughter. But when their child goes to bed at 7 p.m., the wife said her husband “will then go on his gaming until midnight.”

According to the woman, when she has raised concerns about them not spending enough time together, her husband has countered back, telling her things such as “we’re always together” and “we got the rest of our lives together, what’s the rush?”

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“We’ve had a conversation before that his hobbies take up a lot of time, and he reduced this to two times a week, but this has now gone back to five times a week,” the woman wrote, adding: “I feel like I can’t tell him to spend more time with me.”

She continued, “I feel like I’m always asking for time or communication from him. I don’t think there’s anyone else, but I feel like he just doesn’t even think of me.”

In the comments section of the post — which the woman titled “Is this just married life?” — fellow Mumsnet users sided with the concerned wife.

“He’s living the life of a single man while you parent. I wouldn’t see any point to this relationship,” one wrote, as another said, “Tell him he is a dad and partner now, not a child.”

One other Mumsnet user, meanwhile, offered advice to the woman, explaining that she was once in a similar situation.

“I had one like this until I made it clear it wasn’t reasonable. We’ve been fine since,” they wrote.