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Billy Carson, the creator and president of 4BIDDENKNOWLEDGE, has managed to point out the actual reality of toxic interactions and the phrase “one can’t change another” being at the core of it, misunderstanding among people being the main reason for relationships to turn toxic. He says that the first step towards individual liberation is when a person decides not to deal with the dark side of the partner anymore, i.e., not to try to heal him/her.
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The bitter pill to swallow when it comes to toxic people is that no matter how much you love them, healing will not happen. Imagine being the source of all light, but still, your light won’t reach the person living in darkness. You will gain your personal freedom the moment you stop your efforts to fix things or to explain, or to earn love. Carson, the one who digs into ancient mysteries and consciousness, presented this personal revelation covering it with the hashtags #4biddenknowledge and #billycarsonofficial that connected it to his vast philosophical brand.
This revelation from Carson made the audience feel not only their pain but also the need to share their personal experiences and affirmations, therefore the audience was flooded with comments and the speaker’s pain was recognized. Most of the people reading were confirming their own situations as painful builders of their lives.
One person at some point expressed agreement with the feeling ‘U GOT RIGHT!!!! Amen.’ Another user answered ‘So true. Truth hurts,’ which was a sign of the bittersweet acknowledgment that often comes with such realizations. The post for sure had emotional content and one of the users said, ‘Blessings, love to the real people out here,’ which was followed by many others wishing the same love and blessings to the community members.
There was one post that grabbed attention; the comment read, ‘And this is why I’m in my IDGAF era respectfully.’ The phrase that stands for a carefree attitude and prioritizing oneself, perfectly mirrored the liberation that Carson was talking about. It was a clear sign that the focus is now shifted from the need of other’s love to the need of having peace within oneself.
However, not everyone was in full agreement with the responses. One person said that ‘People can change for the better’ thus presenting a disagreement with the general opinion. This point of view reopened the issue of hope vs. self-protection, which is the most important matter in every tough relation.
Another lengthy and emotional response seemed to be a reflection of Carson’s message through very private experience. The person was sobbing and indirectly told that Carson had been ‘played and used’. The user then boasted that he/she had foreseen the breakup of the relationship. The message came to a close with words expressing the necessity of thanking for being able to love even with the pain of being loved. Such an in-depth, personal response is a strong sign of the closeness that Carson’s audience feels to him, and they see it as a direct connection to their life situations.
However a more critical remark came from another user who wrote, ‘It is interesting how you are both blaming each other for the exact same things.’ This comment not only pointed out the fact that both parties are responsible but also layered the issue in a way that suggests mutual blame and that in case of relational conflicts sometimes the lines are really blurred, moving away from a simple narrative of victimization.
One user shared her recent situation, saying, ‘I just got dumped because I opted to keep my options open to listening to all. I don’t mean to say I support them nor their ideas. I only want to expose myself to different opinions.’ The story brought in the element of control and isolation that the relationship was already suffering—and thus the need for personal freedom was reinforced along with the danger one is in if he/she gets lost in the other just to please.
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Billy Carson’s post brings to light a very fundamental conflict that every human on this planet has to deal with. His message, although tough, is that healing is a very personal and intimate process that cannot be imposed on others. The varying ways followers responded—from simply agreeing to and engaging in sophisticated debates—very much confirm this issue as really a universal one and its importance cannot be underestimated. Carson’s ultimate insight is that in the difficult times of this nature not others should change but rather one should reclaim his/her lost energy and life. The response from the community has validated that this is a reality that many are ready to listen to and let it bring comfort to their well-being. He has also recently been involved in a debate about Tylenol and autism.